Teach them to respect property. We teach our children that people are of value and therefore we must treat them that way. But that also goes for their property because property belongs to people.
In our family we are fairly relaxed in letting our children play all over our house. But they’re not allowed to just break things or play in such a way that will damage something in the house. We try and take that value to other people’s houses as well. We don’t allow them to climb all over the furniture and throw balls at windows. They must know the boundaries and respect them. If something is damaged because they did not respect it, then we will insist that they take responsibility by replacing it or fixing it.
Talk about this with your children and make sure you explain why property is important - because people are important and we must respect them and what belongs to them.
Sunday, May 31, 2009
Sunday, May 24, 2009
Teach Them to Respect People of Age
Teach them to respect people of age.
I remember when I was younger we never called any adult by their first name. It was always Mr. Smith and Mrs. Ronald. Over the years, I’ve lost a bit of this value. When we lived in Pietermaritzburg we had two Zulu men that lived with us. They were horrified when our children kept calling all the adults who came to visit by their first names! Since then we have worked harder at this.
There is something in respecting those who have gone before us. We try and encourage our children to greet adults with a handshake and call them uncle or auntie. We also try to make them aware of elderly people and to learn to give up their seat in a public place for them. This helps our children to learn to be aware of others and also to think outside of themselves.
I remember when I was younger we never called any adult by their first name. It was always Mr. Smith and Mrs. Ronald. Over the years, I’ve lost a bit of this value. When we lived in Pietermaritzburg we had two Zulu men that lived with us. They were horrified when our children kept calling all the adults who came to visit by their first names! Since then we have worked harder at this.
There is something in respecting those who have gone before us. We try and encourage our children to greet adults with a handshake and call them uncle or auntie. We also try to make them aware of elderly people and to learn to give up their seat in a public place for them. This helps our children to learn to be aware of others and also to think outside of themselves.
Sunday, May 17, 2009
Are You Respectful?
Be aware of how you speak to your spouse and your children. Are you respectful? Are you, as a parent, building a culture of respect in your home? When your children disrespect you or others, self-examine yourself. Have they learned it from you? Children often mirror what we say and how we behave.
The other day my six-year-old daughter said to her sisters, “Get over here right now!” I realized that she was saying what I normally say and in the same harsh tone that I often use.
The other day my six-year-old daughter said to her sisters, “Get over here right now!” I realized that she was saying what I normally say and in the same harsh tone that I often use.
Sunday, May 10, 2009
Teach Them to Respect Their Parents and Siblings
Teach your children to respect you (their parents) and other family members in the home. This will be the foundation to teaching them to respect other people. If it is not happening in the home it is unlikely to happen outside of the home.
We have a respect policy in our house. Our children are expected to respect us and what we say, to respect their siblings by the way they speak to them and treat them, and to respect others that enter our house by the way they act and greet them.
For instance, our children have to stop and listen when we’re talking to them and then they have to respond with a “Yes Dad” or “Yes Mom.” They have to make eye contact with us. And we insist on a verbal response to our requests or discussions.
If people come over for a visit, they must greet them properly - complete with a handshake and a "nice to meet you."
We have a respect policy in our house. Our children are expected to respect us and what we say, to respect their siblings by the way they speak to them and treat them, and to respect others that enter our house by the way they act and greet them.
For instance, our children have to stop and listen when we’re talking to them and then they have to respond with a “Yes Dad” or “Yes Mom.” They have to make eye contact with us. And we insist on a verbal response to our requests or discussions.
If people come over for a visit, they must greet them properly - complete with a handshake and a "nice to meet you."
Sunday, May 3, 2009
Teach Them to Respect Others and the World Around Them
My 2-year-old saw a chocolate bar wrapper on the ground the other day. She picked it up voluntarily, found the nearest rubbish bin and threw it away. No doubt she was just mimicking what she’s seen or heard. But I hope that’s something she’ll continue to do – not because she’s “suppose” to, but out of respect for others and the world around her.
Teaching our children to respect others and the world around them will have a profound affect on what kind of people they grow up to be. Imagine a world where every child learned this and every parent taught it. Over the next few weeks we’ll look at ways in which you can do this. Perhaps for now you can think of ways to teach your children how to respect others.
Teaching our children to respect others and the world around them will have a profound affect on what kind of people they grow up to be. Imagine a world where every child learned this and every parent taught it. Over the next few weeks we’ll look at ways in which you can do this. Perhaps for now you can think of ways to teach your children how to respect others.
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